Young children need easy ways to remember how to solve social problems. We often make a fun reference to this and describe it to children that others may be “bugging” them and this helps them regulate their emotions when they are upset with their peers.
When we do this, we can discuss bugs and our feelings around them. They may bother us, but in reality, we live with them and to a certain degree need to get used to them! Our problems with others are the same!
Students need to be able to feel safe learning how to solve problems and guided through how to do it. These strategies have been very effective with our students.
When someone is bugging you we can:
We can ignore things that are not true or other people’s problems.
* Talk Friendly
Always talk in a kind manner, assuming others will listen!
* Talk Firmly
To show we mean what we say we speak firmly but still with kind words.
* Move Away
If our words do not work we can choose something else to do or someone else to play with.
* Get Adult Help
When the other strategies don’t work, or if someone is hurt we can always seek help from an adult!
I hope you find these strategies to be helpful with your students! I use a visual prompt for the non-readers in the calming corner area of our classroom. After we have pre-taught and repeatedly modelled the different strategies, students will independently go to use the poster to help them remember how to solve problems.
The following poster gives picture cues that children can easily understand and help them solve their problems independently. If you want to check it out, it can be purchased by clicking on the following image.